In the Natural Family Planning movement, many people have rejected contraception. And this hasn’t been a cause of pain and sadness for us, but a cause of great happiness, because, as it turns out: Non-contraceptive sex is better sex.
Sex is meant to do two things for us: Unite husbands and wives, strengthening the marriage bond, and procreate, bringing new life.
The problem: When we sterilize sexual acts in order to stop the “life” part, we end up stopping the “unite” part, too. We don’t just change the possible outcome of the act: We change the sex act itself.
When men complain that their wife “just isn’t into it” they are saying that sex has stopped being a self-giving expression of love. When women complain that their husband “is just using me” or has stopped having sex altogether—in a growing number of cases, preferring pornography and masturbation—they are noticing the same thing.
The couple has moved from “making love”—sex that wants to give as much as it wants to get—to “having sex”—sex for pleasure or comfort or stress-release but at any rate for me.
Natural Family Planning makes it much harder for couples to take sex for granted—especially when it is part of a complete sexual morality that also rejects all sex acts that are closed in on themselves.
When we have to wait for sex, when we have to respect its meaning, when we have to understand our spouse’s body—we discover the real power of sex.
http://www.aleteia.org/en/lifestyle/article/the-sexual-answer-to-same-sex-marriage-5864098520629248?
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