Analise D Mello MBBS, MS obgyn, DNB

“Stop judging and you will not be judged.
Stop condemning and you will not be condemned.
Forgive and you will be forgiven.
Give and gifts will be given to you;
a good measure, packed together, shaken down, and overflowing,
will be poured into your lap.
For the measure with which you measure
will in return be measured out to you.”

This sums up the entire essence of living the Christian life style. It is far easier said than done. I as a competitive and aggressive human do not like to seek help or give help especially when I know the other is capable , I am a self made and self taught human and thank all my teachers and colleagues but I do not step beyond my routines to be extra helpful cause I never understood why could not they doo it for themselves in the first place.

I am a faithful person and hate the fact that i am ridiculed for being so self sufficient at work. I make the right connections and find the right people to talk to enabling absolutely any thing to be possible and within my professional capacity will help anyone I know but I do have my boundaries especially when it is overstepped by people seeking a side help or counter opinion about illness or trying to skip the line.

I am often reprimanded by my ever so generous parents about my stern ways and strict rules about free advice especially medical but I do know enough that I would not want to endanger my license or the patients life with a half information based decision and advice.

I have learnt to stop people please and say No to events , ideas and deeds which I am not comfortable with – it does come with a lot of its issues when people get offended and called me selfish and mean. I was also told my parents upbringing was poor and they never taught me to share.

I dont understand why should I be sharing something everyone could be doing ( as immature as I may sound). I am trying to lead a life as an example of Christ but being generous to people who just take and take and never want to learn or improve – sorry annoys me a lot.

Today as I sit here and type this from my hospital ward computer , I am surrounded by patients who are with cancer some advanced some lucky and early – I think a lot of them would follow the Christ’s sayings in a jiffy if it could mean a longer or pain free life!

Maybe I will try to focus on being nicer and share more. one day at a time …

AMEN

About the Author

Hello! I’m Dr Analise Maria D’ Mello, (MBBS, MS obgyn, DNB) from the beautiful state of Goa in India. I was born and raised in a Roman Catholic family, learning my prayers, catechism and Catholic values from my parents and grandmothers. I am currently practicing as an obstetrician and gynecologist for 3 years since my residency.

I often speak on anti-abortion to college students and married couples, and counsel distressed pregnant women with appropriate medical advice. I am part of the St Luke’s Medical Guild of Catholic Doctors in my state providing services in prisons, and Lenten and advent retreats for medical professionals and their families.